Money can't buy love, but how much to be in a wedding?

Someone said that Kelly should save her money and someone else inferred that the money should go towards the care of her daughter.

Kelly has had a dream her whole life and now she MADE that dream come true. She CREATED that opportunity, she used her imagination to make this a possibility and for that I prsise her. Kelly is my hairdresser and she'd help ANYONE, she is as nice a person as the day is long.

She deserves to have, anyone deserves to have; what we CREATE for our lives. Do I detect just a hint of jealousy?

Annie N.

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I understand your point- weddings can definitely be cheaper, but the cost of things in my area is ridiculous. I splurged on a few things like location but I stuck to a budget on everything else. $500 wedding dress at a charity auction with all proceeds going to families of breast cancer victims, $30 shoes from Payless, $50 on all invitations because I did them myself, ceremony music free from a family member, re-using items from another family member's wedding, etc. But the cost of my wedding is not really the point.

I think the reason she did this auction is because she didn't want to go into debt, she wants to make sure her family is well taken care of despite the rising costs of weddings. She did a great job too because I just read that she got a corporate sponsor. I applaud her efforts, and I'm sure my parents wish I had come up with something like this 3 years ago.

My wedding in 2004 costs about 6k with honeymoon included (which was about 2k of that). Seven Thousand can buy a really nice wedding at a hall. For what you paid, a tremendous bash could be thrown. Then again, when you have to have top of the line stuff, hire wedding planners, and pay for everything including transportation of the guests, I guess the price does get up there. Seriously, you can get a hall catered for about 50 people for 4k or less, cake is about $200 (assuming you cant manage to make it yourself or know someone who can help you), tux rental is about $100, invitations $200, gold bands $200 or less, reasonable dress, 2k, DJ about $500, and I think the license is like $25 or something like that if I remember correctly. I think a wedding over 10k in cost is approaching the absolutely rediculous level. There is no need to pay for transportation, hotel accomodations, bridesmaids dresses or groomsmen tuxes, caviar, live bands, vintage wine, Vera Wang dresses, diamond encrusted bands, gold leafed invitations, etc etc. Its rediculous.

This is another example of why so many Americans struggle financially. The current mortgage crisis was created by ignorant people like this who attempted to live well above their means.
IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD SOMETHING, DO NOT BUY IT!!! That is apparently a difficult concept for most people to comprehend. This couple has a one-year old child (is it his?) that would be much better served by parents who have a little something for a rainy day, as opposed to a hack job wedding with an ipod for a DJ.

I'm just glad I'm not Corny's mom!!! I thought it was the marriage that was important, not the wedding. Silly me!

PS - Granted, I have been married for 22 years...but my wedding cost less than $1K. We had a lovely civil ceremony, I wore a suit, he wore his uniform; we paid for the celebrant, the flowers, the rings and the photographer. The cake was a wedding gift, as was the lovely hotel for the wedding night...my parents and I (along with a couple of friends) catered, and we had the best ever party at my house.

Maybe some of you haven't gotten married recently, but weddings are very expensive. Their $7000 budget seems pretty frugle to me. My wedding 3 years ago cost about 5 times that, and it was not extravagant by any means. Let's focus on the fact that this is a happy time for them, so try not to rain on their parade. I wish them the best of luck with the wedding planning and with their marriage!

PT Barnum was correct...

...frankly, it's my personal belief that you should live within your means...and spending this much on a wedding doesn't make too much sense to me...especially when you don't make a lot of money and you already have a child to think of. But, that's me...and the couple isn't in my pocket!

However, I have to say, all this back and forth about the child being born out of wedlock. Y'all are some sanctimonious people! Tell me again about the speck in you brother's eye and the plank in your own???

Everyone has their opinions but it's not really fair to point fingures or call any one names. How many of you actually know Kelly or Karl that posted something? This is a young lady and man that want to have their dream day. Does it really matter how they do it? This is their day and not mine, yours or anyone else. And really who cares how much they make or don't make, it's still their wedding. This is creative and thinking outside the box. In today's era everyone is doing something diffent and creative. I wish them the best of luck and am really excited for the two of them. Congrats

Ive read some of the comments and i cant believe what i've seen. People take the time to belittle someone who is trying to have the dream of her life come true. I can say i know the young lady and soon to be husband. No im not his or her best friend. I dont call them they dont call me. I wasnt at the hospital when she gave birth to a beautiful girl. But what i can say is that she is a woman with class. She is devoted to raising her little girl and devoted to her fiancee. She is willing to do anything for her family. So people want to say shes going about this the wrong way. I say who cares what you think. There are worse ways to going about this. Look on craigslist sure you find interesting characters who are willing to do anything to get married or find a date. Go look on a corner street late a night and see if you find yourself critizing her then. Im sure their are people going on ebay and helping, good for you. Im sure ther

If this person is looking for someone to sponsor her weding, she should go for the really big bucks, coperate sponsors. On the programs she could get coperate sopnsers for each aspect of the wedding. Like: "Flowers are provided as a promtional consideration by ------ Florists", ect. Her dress could have the UPS logo on the back. If she is willing to go for the money, go for it all. Don't for get the TV rights too. But I bet she might say that using coperate sponsors at a wedding is un-ethical. Imagine that.

With all the negative comments on here, I hope you all are stuck in the same situation as Kelly is later on down the road, but worse... I hope you dont get help at all! I have known Kelly since we were in highschool, she is such a sweet girl with great goals in life. When people state " my dog wants to be in it, she didn't say it had to be human" grow up and do something with your life rather then sit here and criticize people who want something good to happen. Think about the positive side... everyone wants a nice first marriage, she thought of a creative way to help fund her wedding. Some people may look forward to being in a wedding that never could. So why dont you guys stop with the rude and ridiculous comments and get a life:) Wish ya the best luck Kelly!!

Hmm... I need some help paying my mortgage.. I wonder if I could put an auction up stating something like, "Winner will receive the JOY of stroking a check for $1500 and in return I will send you a picture of my smiling face!"
Good Luck Kelly! I am sure you are getting plenty of attention and more than likely some free stuff for the wedding! What a way to get the money. You go girl!

I got married in October of 2007 and was in the exact same situation this young lady is in. We had a 1 year old daughter and ironically a combined income of around $35,000.00 YOU GO GIRL!!! I wish I thought of that. These days, when times are rough you have to be creative to get what you want. All the people who have negative things to say are just jealous that they didn't think of it! You're all just mad because you had a corny wedding with a big poofy dress and you were probably all fat! Let me tell you what, if I wasn't still broke, I would soooo bid just because I understand what it's like to have INITIATIVE, DRIVE, and whatever else is needed to get what you want...AND to have it all work out! I had a wedding that everyone THOUGHT I paid $30,000.00, when I didn't even spend $5,000!!! It's called CREATIVITY BABY.........TAKE NOTES!

My dog said she wants to be a bridesmaid, I am going to bid $1,625. She didnt say it had to be a human.....

What a sweet young woman. I think who's important here is Kelly. It's her wedding so relax everyone! I think it's kinda cute and there is no reason she shouldn't. I really hope all her dreams come true, she seems like such a hardworking and caring person. I, myself, am a Cosmetologist, and I was married at the Resort and Conference too (the beach is my hometown, I went to Cox). It was really beautiful, and everyone had a great time. Kelly if your reading this remember what's important is your family and friends and your beautiful wedding day! I pray for you right now to be blessed with happiness and never give up on your dreams! You are so lovely and smart and seem so sweet........maybe I'll place a bid now....I'm gonna check it out! Suzanne Williamsburg Virginia

IMO, you two should go to the Marriage Commissioner to marry, save your money in a high interest CD
and if you're still in love and still married in 5 years then blow the wad on the big party and white dress. The reality is the odds are not in favor of you still being married in 5 years. Sad but true.

But hey, it's hers, not mine... congrats and good luck!

No, I don't know Kelly. But I'm sorry, she is self-centered. That doesn't mean she isn't a great person. Some of the nicest people I know are self-centered. I don't think there's a female out there who didn't fantasize at some point in their life about the kind of wedding they wanted. I know I did. And neither of my 2 weddings were what I'd dreamed about. But they were both beautiful, memorable weddings and I wouldn't have done it any differently. Part of growing up (and becoming less self-centered) means that you realize you can't have everything you want, when you want. Most brides trying to have a "dream wedding" don't have a responsibility to a child at a combined income of $32K either. But hey, to each her own. If all the attention and publicity she will get is what she wants, I say go for it. As for me, my close friends were honored to be asked to be a bridesmaid. I can't imagine having a stranger in my wedding party.