So the other week the rumor swirled that Erykah Badu was pregs with her third child by her new love Jay Electronica (who, I have to admit, is totally benefitng from this attention). In the next e-breaths everybody was like, 'Sheesh -- that's three babies by three different guys.' (Badu has a boy, with Andre 3000 and a girl with The D.O.C.)
As much as I love Badu, I did ask myself. 'I mean, has she heard of birth control?' What kind of role model is she to young girls? After mentally wagging my fingers and getting sanctimonious and judgemental though I thought, 'Wait, why did you assume it was an accident? What if she wanted it that way? And anyway, what does her birth canal have to do with me?' Artists, as we know, have unorthodox ways of looking at things.
So Badu, apparently having heard all the furor about her very busy womb, has shot back online. You can read the full rant here [1], but here are some of the highlights:
peace, HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM
...AND MY CHILDREN AND MY INTELLIGENCE...
i am a great mother and care giver to my 2 children and to this world . I home schooled them and taught them the ways of good to the best of my ability. i am their doctor and their nurse . and even sometimes their mother and their father.
i am an excellent mother...I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN.
IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.
every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us "exclusively" FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.
the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends .
we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will.
WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END.
we took our own "vows" and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM. AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS .
question? WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?
WHO IS THE JUDGE?
WOULD IT "LOOK BETTER " TO MARRY AND DIVIORCE AND MARRY AGAIN ?
WOULD THAT BE MORALLY CORRECT ?
WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ? the government's involvement i guess.
IDEALLY , IT WOULD BE EXCELLENT TO FIND THE MAN OR WOMAN WHO FULFILLS YOUR SPIRIT AND STAY FOR EVER
AND EVER ( thru sickness and health till death do us part ) AND HAVE HEALTHY STRONG CHILDREN AS A RESULT OF A
HEALTHY AND STRONG UNION.
(this CAN happen ... we need much training , however.)
OR
IS IT REALLY "GOOD" TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE UNFULFILLED , LONGING FOR RELIEF , BRINGING one another down as a result of improper training , creating BAD ENERGY AND EXPERIENCES FOR THE CHILD TO REPEAT ? (not to mention breeding deceit and anger and resentment )
SEEMS TO CREATE FEARFUL CHILDREN WHO TURN INTO FEARFUL ADULTS .
HOW MANY OF YOU GREW UP IN 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE MISERABLE...
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS A DIFFERENT FATHER OR MOTHER?
DOES HE OR SHE MEAN LESS TO YOU?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE MORE THAN 1 MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR OWN CHILDren ?
how about this:
I PRAY WITH MY CHILDREN
I FEED THEM GOOD FOOD
THEY RESPECT PEOPLES DIFFERENCES
THEY TRAVEL THE WORLD WITH ME
THE KNOW WHO THEY ARE
THEY ADORE THEIR FATHERS AND ARE LOVED BY 2 PARENTS OR MORE -
OR TWO OR MORE SETS OF LOVING GRANDPARENTS
THEY CRY
THEY GET HURT
THEY GET SICK
THEY HEAL
THEY ARE real
THEY ARE NOT AN IDEA or a TOPIC
AND NEITHER AM I .
I AM ALIVE .
I AM BEAUTIFUL WOMAN.
I AM A GOOD WOMAM.
I AM GROWING
I AM COMPLETE WITH OR WITHOUT A PARTNER AND WILL ALWAYS BE
AND I HAVE DREAMS OF A FAMILY STRUCTURE
ALL OF MY DREAMS DO NOT COME TRUE
WE ARE THEIR CHAMPIONS .
live how you want . follow which ever pattern YOU like .
MY CHILDREN WILL BE LEADERS
and they will not ever be slaves to this society's failing idea of morality.
THEY OWN THEIR MINDS AND THEIR DREAMS.
your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.
if i lose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then
WHO NEEDS YOU ....CERTAINLY NOT ME ... KICK ROCKS ... CALL TYRONE ... PACK LIGHT .... BITE ME
and if this post is not clear
kiss my placenta.
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So I guess she's pregnant then, huh? But I'm sorry, this line from Idolator [2] is too funny: ...spectacular rant that invites anyone who would like to further question her to kiss her placenta after, presumably, forming a line to the left and waiting for a while.
Anyway, thoughts? Bad role model or just sign of the times?
Links:
[1] http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php?az=show_topic&forum=5&topic_id=1766635&mesg_id=1766635&listing_type=search
[2] http://idolator.com/398453/